The thing that I want most to tell my Christian brothers and sisters is that gay does not equal broken--at least, not any more than straight equals happy and complete. Part of the conflict that exists for gays, and part of what keeps many gays teetering on the edge of depression, may well be the fact that we constantly have this conversation. The knowledge that they aren’t truly accepted at churches or in the minds of a good percentage of others can’t be easy. That kind of stress would make the chores of life even more difficult than they are normally.
Gay does not necessarily mean broken and most gay people don’t want to be “fixed.” They are happy with who they are, they just wish you were okay with it, too.
I’ve had a similar conversation before and I’ve had friends point out to me that part of what bothers them about gays is the gay lifestyle. The infidelity, the promiscuous behavior, and some behavior that it would be pretty easy to name perverse. My response, of course, is that you get all of the above in straight communities, too, and you can register your disapproval in both cases. Just because the occasional, otherwise straight, rancher or goatherd likes to do naughty things to sheep doesn’t mean that all straight men can’t be trusted with the livestock.
And if a gay man or woman can have a fulfilling, loving relationship while proclaiming the glory of God and living a full life, can their action really be a sin? Could Paul be wrong? I think Paul may have been wrong and I think that the new covenant stripped away many of the rules of the Old Testament. Ten years ago I wouldn’t have said these things, but between seeing both good and bad gay relationships and searching my own heart, I decided that there was no way that I could personally condemn homosexuality.